Epiphany – A Gift from the Universe

The lead-up to new year brought to a dear friend of mine a gift of an altogether different kind – information – How the Universe works.  Now, if I’d not heard of this sort of thing before, I’d have considered a breakdown as opposed to a break-through.  But I have this fortunate streak in knowing more than one lucky recipient of such insights.  I believe it will bring comfort to many of you.

Time is linear.  Neither past nor present exists separate from Now.  He equates this to standing in a river, the river bank on either side representing the past and future.  We have the capacity to ‘see’ only about 2% of the 100% that is present therefore humans need the illusion of ‘Time’ to make sense of even some of this.  Metaphorically, he explains how a coin, rolled along the floor of a plane moving 500 miles per hour, appears to our limited vision inside the plane to travel a short distance.  Yet, it has travelled from one city to another.

NOW is all that we have.   The potential for everything already Exists, nothing being out of reach – NOTHING.  What we perceive as the Space around us is not empty, for it is filled with this potential.  Everything around us IS potential.  We influence the space by our input NOW, thereby influencing its potential.  When we change some factor, everything instantly changes in ‘the Space’.  Nothing is stuck in the form as we see it, so our states can change – poverty, illness.  When we change the way we feel, the influence of this changes the whole world, the outcome.

Change our inner State.  Change the potential.  I was curious how EFT therapy then fits into this understanding.  He acknowledges that Therapy and Visualisation change our emotional state in the moment.  By making this change, it changes the potential for everything.  Every creature that enters that space influences the potential with the addition of its energy.  We have the ability to create and Everything is created in the Now.

This resonates with an Epiphany of one of my teachers, a man who was very overweight and had tried for years through many therapies to lose that weight.  During an ‘awakening’ he saw himself as the hub of a ‘cart-wheel’ type structure.  Each spoke represented energy emitted from him, at the end of which lay a different version of him – the fat, the sick, the slim, the successful.  He understood that the outcome was of his own creation, dependent on which option he CHOSE to focus his energy, his thoughts and imaginings.   Our  job is to focus on the specific outcome of our desires, trusting that the Universe is far more eloquent than our efforts in delivering this, usually in ways our greatest imaginings could not conjure up.  We create the outcome by focusing our energy on our desired outcome.  HOW this is to come about is not our job.

NUTSHELL: Our biggest challenge is to disregard our assumed limitations.  All we are asked to contribute is continuously visualising the desired version of ourselves and our lives with unwavering trust.  Let go of the desire to interfere with the Universe’s way of delivering, trusting it knows HOW far better than we do.  And finally, Patience.  It takes time to create our #Greatest Potential!

 

 

 

 

Home Sweet Home The true Christmas Spirit

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Walking through the late evening streets of Cork city in the ‘Silly Season’ I was struck by the polar opposites of revelry, food and drink that spilled onto the streets hitting the same pavement where our fellow human beings lay, bedding down under the starry skies of Cork.  I thought of the waste of our hard-earned cash splurging on unwanted gifts for those who have more than they can ever consume in one lifetime.

A few weeks ago I met Melanie, 7pm, CORK CITY, FRIDAY: Speaking to this lovely English lady, forced to live in a public toilet, a guy carrying a yukka plant, lunged toward us, claiming “This is my city”.  “Is she still in there?  Get out, go back where you belong”.  My friend and I stood in the doorway between him and her as he aggressed in our faces.  His militant anger intensified like a weapon of control trying to prevent us having our say.  It reminded me of the unleashing of Pandora’s box, so delicately depicted in John Denver’s powerful poem ‘THE BOX’.  See Below.

Melanie is Me, Melanie is You, and WE the people have the power within us to make our cities hate-free zones, because it is MY city too.

Today I saw this group on Facebook, with a commanding video from (six-time Academy Award nominee) Irish film director Jim Sheridan.  It informs us that there are 6,525 of our very own people, adults and children, people like you and me; humans with emotions – dignity & defeat – who will sleep under the bitter Irish skies this winter.  Irish people are taking back their power and kicking into action in a Human-Rights solution to end HOMELESSNESS.

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What if our New Year resolution is to look outside of ourselves for 2017 in spreading a ‘New World Virus’; one of Kindness, Sharing, Humility?  In acknowledgement that You and I are merely a few paychecks away from same Let us say “There but for the grace of God go I”.  I wish you all a very peaceful season.

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JIM SHERIDAN VIDEO: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FsoX73Y5o-Y

THE BOX PERFORMED BY JOHN DENVER, WRITTEN BY KENDREW LASCELLES:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5Wg4AeviJE8

HOME SWEET HOME’S page: https://www.facebook.com/Home-Sweet-Home-Eire-1612885472339949/?notif_t=fbpage_fan_invite&notif_id=1482166903612444

Neasa x

Neasa De Baroid is a singer, performer and an EFT Practitioner in Cork City

 

 

Self-Value and Its Tentacles

shame-statueDetermined by childhood messages, Self-Value will permeate every facet of our lives in the type of people and experiences we attract. There is no self-blame because it happened at a subconscious level at a time when the child had to protect itself.  Self-Value is undermined by environmental messaging from parents or other notary carers.  This messaging creates our life programmes.  To better understand this, imagine downloading Windows 7, with an expectation of accessing Windows 10.  Impossible!  We first have to overwrite the old programme with one that better serves our needs.

Self-Value is diminished by ‘Trauma’. For a child, trauma can be as simple as expressing Self in a moment of open vulnerability and trust, only to be met with responses that cause deep Shame, such as:

  • Verbal aggression/anger/shouting
  • Mockery
  • Undermining of the child’s efforts
  • Pointing out mistakes – ‘Wrong, wrong’ or how s/he could have done it better – ‘Not right Enough’
  • Judging, condemning, impatience with child’s efforts
  • Blame Game – Habitual in many families. Pointing the finger
  • Putting child on a pedestal from which the child fears ‘falling off to a huge drop’, the responsibility of pleasing the parent daunting and out of reach for them to maintain; expectation of parental disappointment resulting in a child assuming failure, hence never trying in a defeatist response
  • Setting family codes of ethics too high to live up to, by which the child feels overwhelmed and a charlatan; unworthy of being a family member
  • Teaching a child to put other’s needs, wants and emotions first at the cost of their own – perhaps reminded to consider a needy sibling or a needy parent.

 

A child’s priority is to feel safe in parental love for who they are. The above ‘traumas’ create a need to perform for conditional love, In these moments we download limiting beliefs: “It is not safe to be Me”.  “I am unloveable”.

We also learn to respond to the Guilt Programme. Now it becomes less painful to be a servaholic to other’s demands than to feel the physical reactions of Guilt, i.e. nausea, anxiety, panic, fear, cowering, “I let them down”, “They’ll think I’m selfish and dislike me and talk about me”.  From here on we may as well be a puppet on a string awaiting the command to know how high to jump in efforts to win the prized possession – Approval.  The Reward?  That momentary ‘fix’ that temporarily makes us feel safe, suppressing all connection with our own desires.  Alas, another Performing Monkey is created.

Is it any wonder then that this child becomes an adult who doesn’t know what they want, like or need; always looking to the guidance of other’s opinion in order to make a choice; leaping from one relationship to the next in a pattern of Co-dependency, desperately trying to fill the void of parental love and self-love that is left like an open wound within, waiting to be healed.

The same adult often becomes a PEOPLE PLEASER and PERFECTIONIST to protect themselves through an expectation of guaranteed approval, acceptance, love. Yes, we become addicted to love, our drug being Approval.  It doesn’t work!  We attract people whose love is Conditional on us being a slave to their needs, becoming the carer, the enabler, the shoulder to cry on, the one they can rely on to pick up the pieces; in other words Your average Dogsbody.  Ultimately it leads to anger with self, resentment of those who lean heavy on us and eventually burn out, loss of energy chronic fatigue, fibromyalgia and depression.

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A FEW STEPS TOWARDS HEALING:

Low self-value presents in many forms in my clients. These are a few steps you can address on the road toward self-acceptance.  Refer to Youtube – EFT tapping videos

  • Learning to say NO. Until you become more adept at this you can say “I’ll get back to you on it” or “Leave it with me”. We can effectively tap on the fear of “They won’t like me. Do I need people that ‘love’ me only as long as I serve their needs. If that is love, then I can live without it. Time to say Stop to allowing others to emotionally manipulate me for their own needs”.
  • We can tap on fear of anger. It is most effective when we tap it out from its origins, imagining the person who responded to us through anger in childhood while tapping.
  • Fear of making mistakes. Can we change our perspective and see mistakes instead as a learning curve. We haven’t failed. We have eliminated one option on our way closer to success. In the final development of the light bulb, Edison tried over 3,000 designs before getting it right! We are human, nothing more. What if we accepted our right to make mistakes. “Resistance is futile” for whether we like it or not, humans at all levels make mistakes. It is how we learn.
  • The Blame Game: What if life happens and often there IS nobody at fault. In accepting this, it further enables us to feel safer with mistakes.

Neasa x

Neasa De Baroid is a singer, performer and an EFT Practitioner in Cork City